When it comes to dating and relationships...

The rollercoaster of dating and relationships is one of the scariest and bumpiest rides ever. Sometimes you can expect what will be around the corner, other times it shocks the hell out of you. Do we have any control over the ride? Or should we just sit back and take it as it comes? Girls and Guys alike are on the ride... not just one or the other. Sometimes we want to get off... but not me... I love the ride.

Last night I found myself at Bubbaplooza... a concert put on by the Ranch every year headlining Aaron Watson. I love Aaron Watson, I find myself at this concert every year... in fact anytime he is in the area I will more than likely be there. I was not the only one there... several of my friends were there... several of the guys I have dated were there as well. It is always at little awkward when you see a guy you dated but now you are with someone else. I have been dating -W for about two months now. It is a safe bet to call him my boyfriend. I haven't seen or gone out with anyone else since I started dating him. Which is a feat in and of itself.... because I have always liked to keep my options open... but what can I say... there is just something about -W... an automatic attraction. I never thought that type of attraction existed. Sure I have been in several relationships, but I was never swept off my feet by any of them... -W has swept me off my feet.

An explanation please... the Young Guy is one of the many guys I dated before -W. The Young Guy has his act together... he is successful.. good looking.. talented (he can play the guitar).. and over all a very sweet and caring guy. Any girl would be lucky to have him. The Young Guy took me on the perfect date... a concert on the lawn at the Museum of the Southwest... it was unique and nice... and overall I had a great time... but I did not have the butterflies in my stomach. You know the little nerves that pump up your adrenaline and make your heart beat fast... they weren't there. No one can really explain why we are attracted to some people more than others... but we just are. Last night the Young Guy was asking me if he came on too strong. After our first date he brought me flowers, leaving them on my doorstep with a very nice note. He thought he scared me off... and I can see why... I never went on a second date with him... but it had nothing to do with the flowers or the note. IT just wasn't THERE.

After I had my heart broken by my ex-boyfriend I read two books... "He's Just Not That Into You" and "It’s Called a Breakup Because Its Broken"... both are written by Greg Behrendt... both should become a woman's Bible to relationships. I was thinking today that guys should read these books as well... they too could benefit from it. Liz Tuccillo helped write "He's Just Not That Into You"... and she said something I wake up and tell myself everyday...
"There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic"

Guys... Girls... we are all fantastic in our own ways... wait for that "oh I can't get you out of my head" person to come into your life... and if you do find that person but they don't feel the same... then that's not the person you need... you will find that feeling again... and when you do... they too will have that feeling...

I am Living Single in Texas...