To converse...

A conversation is communication by two or more people, often on a particular topic. Conversations are the ideal form of communication in some respects, since they allow people with different views of a topic to LEARN from each other.

But how can I LEARN if the person I want to converse with refuses to converse? Women often complain about men, and their inability to communicate. Women want to talk... men do not. So in most cases... women talk... and men do not... in fact they do not only not talk... but they don't listen either. And in order to converse one must talk and listen.... which men do neither.

So, with that said, I myself do not find the urge or need to talk about my feelings nearly as much as I use to, with men that is. In past relationships, that is all I did. Telling men what I need, what I don't need, what I want, and what I don't want. But in my experience I found this to be a waste of time, so I stopped. Instead of talking to my man, I now talk to my friends.... and they talk to me. There is only one down fall to this... my friends know exactly what I need and want... my boyfriend does not.

Now I am not shrink and I will never be a shrink... I have too many problems to try and fix other people's problems, but I am pretty sure if my boyfriend does not know what I want or how I feel, that is not such a good thing. Because sooner or later my needs, wants, and feelings will erupt... erupt being the key word here.

Sure most of my needs, wants, and feelings come and go and change and never really stay the same... so talking to my friends about these needs, wants, and feeling satisfies the need to expresses them. But some of my needs, wants, and feelings will NEVER change. So I feel it necessary when one of these never changing issues arises, I need to inform my boyfriend about them. One problem... when I tried this "he" did not want to "talk" about it.

Do you know how super frustrating that is?!? I need to talk... I want to talk... I need and want to talk to "him"... but I cannot. So I am at a lose, on what to do. I truly believe I did the right thing. I stood by my conviction on how I feel about a certain topic, and because he choose to ignore my feelings, I choose to not see him, until the certain topic is no longer in his system. I will not name the certain topic.

However I am a very open minded and strong willed individual, and it is important for me to stand by my decisions on how I choose to live my life. And if any man ever mocks, or makes fun, or even gets angry at my convictions and my decisions then he does not respect or cherish me... in which I could never respect him either. The problem is I don't know how he feels about my convictions and decisions, because he refuses to TALK!!!

I am Living Single in Texas.